The Myth of the Soul Mate

The Myth of the Soul Mate

By Marilee Jones

I don’t know about you, but I was raised to believe that there is just one person for each of us out there in the world – our soul mate – and our main job in life is to find that person and live happily ever after.  This belief is both scary and self-limiting and best of all, is totally made up.  Who knows how many possible mates there are for each of us on a planet of 6 billion humans?  If we believed that there are endless possibilities in life, that there are many, many people we could choose to partner with over the span of our life, we would feel freer somehow and might make better choices.

It’s the same with choice of college.  There are so many colleges and universities in the US (2500+ 4 yr. schools alone, not to mention the 2 yr. and professional schools) that we can conclude there are many good matches for each applicant if only we can reject the notion of one soul-mate and stay open to the possibilities.  For parents this means that some of these choices may be schools we are not familiar with, not in the top ten schools nationally.  Just because we haven’t heard of some colleges doesn’t mean they aren’t good.  And many schools will be the right match.

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